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Page 4 August 22nd, 2013 Valley News and Views Dear Lady Di, I went through a month of treatment I met the man of my dreams 2 years ago. but did have two relapses, drinking and At first glance I knew I wanted to marry him gambling. A friend of his saw me at the bar and I had barely been with him 10 minutes, and told him I was drinking. For the last 2 There was as an immediate emotional months I haven't had a drink or gambled connection and physical attraction. We had since that week. I am truly committed to talked on the phone before our blind date so staying sober but also realistic knowing it's a I knew he was a man with many attributes, day at a time. We became engaged 6 months ago after Since my relapse, my fianc6 has shown dating a year and a half. It wasn't until after great concern about me being able to stay our engagement that he confronted me with sober. He had a lot of faith in me when his concerns. He said I had a drinking and he asked me to seek help. I proved to do gambling problem and I needed to seek everything I could under the circumstances. treatment priorto planning our wedding. Now he's getting cold feet and wants to postpone our wedding planning. I'm afraid your fianc6 or planning a wedding. Now, he might even break off our engagement, more than ever you need to examine your I'm very close to his family and my own behavior. You have put your fianc6 relatives really like him. My mother thinks through great angst and it sounds as if you he's a diamond in the rough and I have to haven't made all your amends. If you really agree. I'm becoming frustrated because he 'got it' you wouldn't be asking how to cling to seems to be pulling away and doesn't seem a potential marriage that he's not ready for. as emotionally available. I need him to Your outlook is still self-serving showing believe in me and thought he wotfld provide you really haven't defeated your addictions. unconditional support. It sounds like you're starting to put some I've been going to church and I'm currently focus on yourself with professional help. seeing a therapist to try to fix my problems. Your actions now and going forward need to Because of a few mistakes I've made, he's be to cure your addictions, not trying to gain stalling. I want to spend the rest of my life his trust. You're biggest gain is a sober shift with him. What else can I do to earn his trust in focusing on yourself, one day at a time. and emotional support so I don't lose him? I Lady Di want to proceed planning our wedding and I'm in a world of hurt. Write Lady Di confidentially at Letters can be mailed to; Dear Lady Di, 8351 West Bush Lake Road, Bloomington, MN 55438 Frantic Fianc6 Dear Frantic FiancG This is not the time to be concerned about GREAT BEGINNINGS 1373 "The tree the tempest with a crash of wood Throws down in front of us is not to bar Our passage to our journey's end for good, But just to ask us who we think we are Insisting always on our own way so." (the beginning of"On A Tree Fallen Across The Road," a poem by Robert Frost) NATIONAL DEBT As of August 18 the national debt was $16, 744,583,798,148. 67 (over sixteen trillion dollars). On August 11 it was $16,745,194,855,814.89, so there was a decrease of $611 million. Each American now owes $52,909.61. This is down $9.30 from the $52,918.91 of August 11. The increase in the national debt since our members of Congress were first in office: Former Senator Kent Conrad: 1987- -$2,350,276,890,953.00; Jan. 2, 2013-- $16,441,433,358,986.17, an increase of over 14 trillion, 91 billion dollars. Former Representative Rick Berg: Jan. 2011--$13,997,932,781,828.89; Jan. 2, 2013-- $16,441,433,358,986.17, an increase of over two trillion 416 billion dollars. Senator John Hoeven: Jan. 2011-- $13,997,932,781,828.89; today--S16, 744,583,798,148. 67, an increase of over two trillion 748 billion dollars. Senator Heidi Heitkamp and Representative Kevin Cramer: Jan. 3, 2013--$16,437,549,999,170.77; today--S16, 744,583,798,148. 67, an increase of $306 billion. TRIVIA QUIZ TIME 801 1._ was the author of "Finnegan's Wake." (a. Ernest Hemingway; b. James Joyce; c. William Butler Yeats) 2. was the author of "The Picture of Dorian Gray." (a. Samuel Butler; b. Richard Sheridan; c. Oscar Wilde) 3. was the author of "The Gift of the Magi." (a. O. Henry; b. C.S. Lewis; c. E.B. White) 4. _ was the author of"Steppenwolf." (a. Hermann Hesse; b. Franz Kafka; c. Bram Stoker) 5. __ is the capital of Afghanistan. (a. Babylon; b. Baghdad; c. Kabul) (answers at the end of the Column) A MESS OF POTTAGE, 430 This portion of my column describes the works of Libertarian philosopher and economist Murray Rothbard (1926-1995). In 1995 he published "Economic Thought Before Adam Smith." Chapter 11 is entitled "Mercantilism and freedom in England from the Civil War to 1750." Charles Davenant (1656-1714) was the British commissioner of excise from which he made a good living until he lost the position after the Glorious Revolution of 1688. Deeply in debt, Davenant began writing pamphlets on the economic problems of the day. In Essay upon the Ways and Means of supplying the War" Davenant argued that the British government should finance its war with the Dutch, not by going into debt, but through the excise. This advice, if followed, would have returned Davenant to his government position, but, alas for him, it was not to be. POETIC FRAGMENTS Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792-1822) was a major Romantic poet. Here is a portion of his poem "To A Skylark": "With thy clear keen joyance Languor cannot be: Shadow of annoyance Never came near thee: Thou lovest; but ne'er knew love's sad satiety." DHS, 1927 33 On the evening of March 25 at the PTA meeting, the third and fourth graders presented the operetta "Mother Goose Island." Rev. Fairham led the discussion of a paper entitled "How Can the Parents and the Teachers Cooperate to Promote the Moral Welfare of the Child" read by Mrs. R.J. Moore. BILLBOARD'S TOP TEN 1973 August 18 1. Touch Me In The Morning (Diana Ross) 2. Live And Let Die (Wings) 3. Brother Louie (Stories) 4. The Morning After (Maureen McGovern) 5. Let's Get It On (Marvin Gaye) 6. Bad, Bad Leroy Brown (Jim Croce) 7. Get Down (Gilbert O'Sullivan)* 8. Delta Dawn (Helen Reddy)* 9. Uneasy Rider (Charlie Daniels) 10. Feelin' Stronger Every Day (Chicago)* (* indicates a new song) Gilbert O'Sullivan was born Raymond O'Sullivan on December 1, 1946, inWaterford, Ireland. He had seven hit songs from 1971 to 1974, six of which made it to the Hot 100. "Get Down" was his fifth release, it peaked at #7, was on the charts for fifteen weeks, and became his third-biggest hit, behind "Alone Again (Naturally)" and "Clair." NUMBER 1 SONGS AUGUST 22 1893--Two Little Girls In Blue (J.W. Myers) 1898--She Was Bred In Old Kentucky (George J. Gaskin) 1903--Come Down, Ma Ev'ning Star (Henry Burr) 1908--Are You Sincere? (Elise Stevenson) 1913--When Irish Eyes Are Smiling (Chauncey Olcott) 1918--Rock-A-Bye Your Baby With A Dixie Melody (Al Jolson) 1923--Swingin' Down The Lane (Isham Jones) 1928--My Angel (Paul Whiteman) 1933--Love Is The Sweetest Thing (Ray Noble) 1938--Music, Maestro, Please (Tommy Dorsey); A-Tisket, A-Tasket (Ella Fitzgerald) 1943--In The Blue Of The Evening (Tommy Dorsey); You'll Never Know (Dick Haymes) 1948--You Call Everybody Darlin' (Al Trace); Love Somebody (Doris Day/ Buddy Clark) 1953--Vaya Con Dios (Les Paul/Mary Ford); I'm Walking Behind You (Eddie Fisher); No Other Love (Perry Como) 1958--Nel Blu Dipinto Di Blu (Domenico Modugno) 1963--Fingertips, Part 2 (Little Stevie Wonder) 1968--People Got To Be Free (Rascals) 1973--Touch Me In The Morning (Diana Ross) 1978--Three Times A Lady (Commodores) 1983--Every Breath You Take (Police) 1988--Roll With It (Steve Winwood) 1993--Can't Help Falling In Love (UB40) 1998--Iris (Goo Goo Dolls); The Boy Is Mine (Brandy/Monica) 2003--Crazy In Love (Beyonce/Sean Paul) 2008--1 Kissed A Girl (Katy Perry) 15 YEARS AGO August 27, 1998--The Drayton Public School opened for the new school year. It was the elementary school's ll9th year of operation and the high school's 106th year. Enrollment was 248. August 28, 1998--The North Border Bandits defeated St. Thomas-Valley 12-6. NOTABLE QUOTES "Nobody is going to go to that much trouble to get murdered. But if you are going to murder somebody, you expect to go to a lot of trouble. I would." (as spoken by Pam North in Frances and Richard Lockridge's 1940 mystery novel "The Norths Meet Murder.") Trivia Quiz Answers (1.b; 2. c; 3. a; 4. a; 5. c) "My great hope is to the game our grandfather understand the connection laugh as much as I cry; to taught us with my youngerwe all share, it will be there get my work done and try to brother just like we did when in our time of need. love someone and have the we were kids. Each one of us has the courage to accept the love in From what I heard, the capacity within us to give return." -MayaAngelou youngest of our group the people we come into Early Monday morning enjoyed the game so much contact with the hope they as my husband and I sat they woke up Saturday so desperately need. It can outside in the foggy mist morning talking about shared in the simplest of while our pets enjoyed a few Our nephew Trapper said to ways-asmile, acompliment, playful moments in nature's his mom, "Can we play kick words of encouragement, repose, I thought about life the can today?" She replied, an empathetic ear, honing and how sometimes the "Well Trapper we kind of compassion, giving of our haze of our struggles and need to have a party to timeandresources.Thething circumstances can be like play that game." "Well then is, whenweallowourselvesto that dense fog holding us morn," Trapper said. "Cangive to others, we gain more back from seeing the beauty we have a party, PLEASE?"than we can comprehend. I and grace surroundingus.We Our dear friend R_honda said know for myself when I am walk around only partially her grandson Loki woke upfeeling down the one action present allowing our worries also wanting to play kick the that always carries me back to absorb the rest of our can again. He said to her, "I out is helping someone else. energy, want to play kick the can, It is the catalyst to finding Last week we had the I promise I will be a good our connection not only to pleasure of spending time sport." each other but also to the with my mother and father- It made me smile thinkinghigher spirit we are all a part in-law when they traveled how one day they too willof. from Alma, Mich. We only teach their children how to Outside the sun is shining, get to see them once or twice play the unforgettable game blue skies hover over fields a year and so we always we grew up playing. It will ready for harvest, and a anticipate their visit. My be passed on to the next gentle breeze touches the husband and I were carrying generation just like manybranches of the trees causing some heavy weight on our other family traditions we them to sway peacefully back shoulders and feeling a bit enjoy throughout the year. and forth. I know in life the overwhelmed when they Saturday morning I winds of change will come ,came but despite our worries greeted the day feeling and go, struggles will arise, we tried as best we could to renewed with hope. uncertainty will threaten to enjoy the present moments Spending time with family is diminish our faith andhope. I with them. By the time they healing for me as I'm sure it amgrateflflinthosemoments left Sunday morning we were is for many of you. There is grace floats in through those given a renewed sense of such grace in knowing there loving connections to save hope from the unconditional are people in this world who us - to fill us up with exactly love of family, will always love us despite what we need. My father-in-law Papa Bill our weaknesses; it is a Sometimes along the loves to go cat fishing when connection that can neverway when life seems they are here so we did a be broken, overwhelming the best thing little of thatwith a few other H. Jackson Brown Jr. we can do is take a deep family members. Last Friday once wrote, "Never deprive breath, center ourselves in we all gathered at our home someone of hope; it might be the present moment, open in the country to celebrate all they have." Quite honestly our hearts to the grace always Papa Bill's birthday. He I don't know what our family circling through our lives, turned 65 on Monday and would have done thus far and share the gift of hope it was wonderful to get without faith and hope, it is with someone who needs it. what keeps us going through I personally have witnessed together with everyone. At one point we decided the struggles. The amazing the beauty of hope in the to play a game my brothers, part is hope comes in many midst ofmymosttryingtimes cousinsandIgrewupplaying different forms, it sweeps in and will be forever grateful - kick the can. Along with our whenweleastexpectittoand for the moments I've been older niece and nephew, my often from the most unlikely filled up by those who love younger brother and I joined sources. More and more I me unconditionally. As my in to help teach the youngest have come to understand favorite poet Maya Angelou family members how to God's grace surrounds us said, may we laugh as much play. It certainly brought always if we open our eyes as we cry; get our work done, back memories for me and I and hearts to it, if we believe try to love someone, and thoroughly enjoyed playing in the world's capacity have the courage to accept for compassion, if we the love in return. - Your Profess WE OFFER: Mail-Out Prescriptions Delivery Service Photo Kiosk Blood Pressure Screening 10% Off Senior Citizen Discount Zoovio Video Dealer Hallmark Cards Olde Medicine Center PARK RIVER (701) 284-7876 Drayton Drug DRAYTON (701) 454-3831 Ye Olde Medicine Center CAVALIER (701) 225-3332 KARA RUHLAND PHARMACIST