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Page 4 September 26th, 20133 Valley News and Views Dear Lady Di, I live in a small town and my in-laws live one block from our house. I get along with them fine but my husband's mother stops by almost every day. Last week, we sent our children to camp and my mother-in-law walked in the door unannounced. She saw my husband walking around almost naked and they both had a great laugh. Needless to say, I didn't find this amusing. After he dashed to put some clothes on she stayed for an hour drinking a cocktail. She had no regard for our privacy even knowing our 2 kids were away. A * GREAT BEGINNINGS 1378 Announcer: 'nd now JackWebb in Johnny Madero, Pier 23." (a typical opening for "Johnny Madero, Pier 23," a crime drama on radio; Mutual, April 24 to May 4, 1947) NATIONAL DEBT As of September 22 the national debt was $16,743,723,923,867.97 (over Sixteen trillion dollars). On September 15 it stood at $16,743,882,533,934.15 so there was a decrease of over $153 million. Each American now owes $52,869.16, down $8.07 from the $52,877.23 of September 15. The increase in the national debt since our members of Congress were first in office: Former Senator Kent Conrad: 1987- -$2,350,276,890,953.00; Jan. 2, 2013-- $16,441,433,358,986.17, an increase of over 14 trillion, 91 billion dollars. Former Representative Rick Berg: Jan. 2011--$13,997,932,781,828.89; Jan. 2, 2013-- $16,441,433,358,986.17, an increase of over two trillion 416 billion dollars. Senator John Hoeven: Jan. 2011- -$13,997,932,781,828.89; today-- $16,743,723,923,867.97, an increase of over two trillion 746 billion dollars. Senator Heidi Heitkamp and Representative Kevin Cramer: Jan. 3, 2013--$16,437,549,999,170.77; today-- $16,743,723,923,867.97, an increase of $306 billion. For my figures I consult a website that differs slightly from that of the U.S. Treasury D ep artment, which claims the national debt as of September 19 was $16,738,503,812,337.79. The same government website says the debt on May 31 was $16,738,821,943,986.12. How is it possible for the debt actually to decline when the government deficit spent by $98 billion in July alone? "Something is rotten in the state of Denmark." TRIVIA QUIZ TIME 806 1. David Garrick and Edmund Kean were famous (a. actors; b. composers; c. singers) 2. Edo is a former name for the city of. (a. Shanghai; b. Tokyo; c. Yokohama) 3. Titian hair is __ hair. (a. black; b. brown; c. red) 4. Katmandu is the capital of. (a. Bhutan; b. Nepal; c. Tibet) 5. "Big Brother" plays a role in the novel__. (a. Brave NewWorld; b. 1984; c. The W'zard of Oz) (answers at the end of the Column) A MESS OF POTTAGE 1435 This portion of my column describes the works of Libertarian philosopher and economist Murray Rothbard (1926-1995). In 1995 he published "Economic Thought Before Adam Smith." Chapter 11 is entitled "Mercantilism and freedom in England from the Civil War to 1750." Charles Davenant (1656-1714) began writing pamphlets on the economic problems of the day. Today some modern economic historians insist on seeing in his publications an original "law of demand." Rothbard condemns it as not being an economic law at all, but a delusion that has blinded modern backers of econometrics. The "law" states that when a supply of a good is reduced below the usual amount, a definite quantitative increase in the price will occur. There are two fallacies at play here: the first is that the Davenant table is not a demand schedule, and second the historical data only establishes a relationship between years and markets; they do not set up any sort of law. POETIC FRAGMENTS Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792-1822) was a major Romantic poet. Here is a portion of his poem "To A Skylark": "Teach me half the gladness That thy brain must know, Such harmonious madness From my lips would flow The world should listen then, as I am listening now!" I've asked my husband to move away the last 2 years. The next town is 20 minutes away and I know it would help the situation immensely. Our town is so small that if we moved to the other side it would be a 5 minute drive. The other problem; my husband feels for the first time in his life his parents have finally accepted him. Growing up, they always showed favoritism toward his older brother. His brother moved about an hour away for a great job. We both work and still don't make the income his brother does. My in-laws have helped us out financially. They use money as a means of manipulating my husband to show them they love and care DHS, 1927 38 On the afternoon of April 8, Mr. Hansen, Graham VanCamp, Raymond Dryden, Paul Hedman, and Earle Scambler defeated Mr. Welsh, Bill Wagner, George Buchanan, Harry Moore, and Hugh Merritt three games to two in volleyball. BILLBOARD'S TOP TEN 1973 September 22 1. Let's Get It On (Marvin Gaye) 2. We're An American Band (Grand Funk) 3. Delta Dawn (Helen Reddy) 4. Loves Me Like A Rock (Paul Simon) 5. Say, Has Anyone Seen My Sweet Gypsy Rose (Dawn/Tony Orlando) 6. Brother Louie (Stories) 7. Half-Breed (Cher)* 8. Higher Ground (Stevie Wonder)* 9. Touch Me In The Morning (Diana Ross) 10. That Lady, Part 1 (Isley Brothers)* (* indicates a new song) Cher was born Cherilyn Sarkasian on May 20, 1946, in El Centro, CA. She was married to and recorded with Sonny Bono from 1963 to 1975. As a solo act she had thirty-seven hit songs from 1965 to 2002. "Ha/f-Breed" was her fifteenth release. It peaked at #1, was on the charts for twenty weeks, and became her third-biggest all-time hit, behind "Believe" and "Gypsys, Tramps and Thieves." NUMBER 1 SONGS SEPTEMBER 26 1893--Daisy Bell (Dan Quinn) 1898--I'm Old But I'm Awfully Tough (Cal Stewart) 1903--Hurrah For Baffin's Bay (Arthur Collins/Byron Harlan) 1908--Cuddle Up A Little Closer, Lovey Mine (Ada Jones/Billy Murray) 1913--Last Night Was The End Of The World (Henry Burr) 1918--Rock-A-Bye Your Baby With A Dixie Melody (Al Jolson) 1923--Yes, We Have No Bananas (Billy Jones) 1928--Jeannine (Gene Austin) 1933--The Last Round-Up (George Olsen) 1938--Change Partners (Fred Astaire); Alexander's Rag Rime Band (Bing Crosby/ Connee Boswell) 1943--Sunday, Monday, Or Always (Bing Crosby) 1948--Twelfth Street Rag (Pee Wee Hunt) 1953--Vaya Con Dios (Les Paul/Mary Ford); You You You (Ames Brothers) 1958--Nel Blu Dipinto Di Blu (Domenico Modugno) 1963--BlueVelvet (BobbyVinton) 1968--Harper Valley P.T.A. (Jeannie C. Riley) 1973--Let's Get It On (Marvin Gaye) 1978--Boogie Oogie Oogle (Taste of Honey) 1983--Tell Her About It (Billy Joel) 1988--Don't Worry Be Happy (Bobby McFerrin) 1993--Dreamlover (Mariah Carey) 1998--Iris (Goo Goo Dolls); I Don't Want To Miss A Thing (Aerosmith) 2003--Shake Ya Tailfeather (Nelly/P Diddy/Murphy Lee) 2008--Whatever You Like (T.I.) 15YEARS AGO Sept. 28, 1998--JennyKowalski was crowned as the 47th DHS Homecoming Queen. KC's Students of the Week for September 1998 were Katie Heine, Amber Olson, Kathyrn Sitter, and Jenny Kowalski. Oct. 1, 1998--The DHS girls defeated the Border Aces 41-27; Rachael Schuster scored fifteen pts. NOTABLE QUOTES "Our day of marriage shall be yours; One feast, one house, one mutual happiness." (as said by Valentine in Shakespeare's comedy "The Two Gentlemen of Verona," Act V, sc. 4) Trivia Quiz Answers (1.a; 2. b; 3. c; 4. b; 5. b) for him after all these years. They might be sincere in their efforts but my husband sees this as a gesture of love and acceptance after many years. I feel I am tied to a stake in this town and wonder if this is my life's destiny? If it is, I'm not sure I can deal with this much longer. My husband does not want to move and I'm starting to have feelings of low self worth. How can this situation ever be resolved? I'm not sure how long I can hang in there. Name Withheld Dear Dire Straits, Life with an emotionally dependent husband gives you only the skeleton of a marriage without the substance of marriage. It sounds like you're married to a second family too. First, a list of boundaries needs to be made immediatelywith your husband regarding his parents. Ensure you both contribute equally to this list and don't hold back. Include a list of guidelines that are unacceptable and toss some in that are currently ok. He may have opinions about your family to express too. If he has any thoughts, let him have at it. This is a good time to lay all the cards on the table. Your marriage is at stake. Since moving isn't imminent you both need a sustainable solution for the interim. Be aligned enforcing these boundaries now and going forward. Expect initial resistance from your mother- in-law too. You're resilient; taking a stand for yourself, your marriage and kids. If this doesn't succeed, I'm glad the nearest town is 20 minutes away. Your husband will be near enough to pick up the kids for custody visits when you move there in the spring. Lady Di Write Lady Di confidentially at DearLadyDi@gmail.com Letters can be mailed to; Dear Lady Di, 8351 West Bush Lake Road, Bloomington, MN 55438 "You create your own universe as you go along." -Winston Churchill Early Saturday morning I drove slowly down our gravel road taking in the beauty of a perfect fall day. When I reached the wetlands I stopped for a moment, the scene literally took my breath away. The water's surface was filled with a variety of feathered fowls, several ducks, geese, and even a few swans floated on the surface. The sun was just coming up over the horizon and a gentle fog hovered creating a celestial view. I smiled as I said out loud the same thing I say every morning when I jump into my vehicle and look at the picture securely attached to my visor, "Good morning papa." But that day I followed it with, "Wow, this is what heaven must look like pops." For one brief moment I felt like I was experiencing eternity mostly because I was focusing wholeheartedly on the present moment, taking in all that was directly in front of me, and feeling overwhelmingly grateful for each breath I was taking as well as the picturesque canvas of my surroundings. Later that day while we gathered into small groups at a special lia sophia event I got goosebumps as I told a few of the wonderful women in attendance about that moment. One of my goals in this life is to experience many more instances like that. "The closest we can get to eternity is in the present moment," I said. It's so true but often very difficult to achieve as we fill our days with ramblings of insecurities and all the things we need to get done. A dear friend of mine Grace was the main presenter at our event. She speaks quite a bit to various groups around the state and is so good at what she does. The focus of her presentation was on attitude. I came away from it with so manylessons to work on and live by. One of the things Grace said is something I will never forget. More often than not we tend to be the hardest on ourselves. Our negative self talk can take us from a positive outlook to a negative one in a matter of seconds. She said when we are bombarded with those negative thoughts one of the things we can do is imagine speaking those same disparaging words to a child. I immediately thought of my two young nephews and how I would never talk to them like I talk to myself sometimes. It was an eye opening moment as I realized how hard I can be on myself and how I will undoubtedly think of their innocent young faces the next time I start to beat myself up. "Successful people stand up to self doubt," Grace said. "They choose to think differently." We truly do have a choice in the way we approach the victorieS anddefeatslife offers up. Sometimes we cannot change the circumstances but we absolutely can change the way we deal with them. We learned about how our thoughts beconle things; what we think abotit we bring about. I know for myself this is something I have to work at on a daily basis. I definitely need to practice to make it habit and I intend to do just that. At one point during Grace's presentation, she had us fold a piece of paper in half. On one side we were asked to list anything we thought to be a failure in our life. On the other side of that sheet we were told to write what we learned from each one of those "failures." She then had us rip the paper in half and told us we could crumple up and throw away our failures or keep them, the choice was up to us. I thought about it for a minute and chose to keep my failures, to own them so to speak because without them I would have never learned the lessons I did - those I needed to learn. I realized my "failures" were nothing but lessons in disguise. I no longer had to hold on to the fear of failure - I could grasp the concept that every setback is a lesson which will help me grow. Winston Churchill once said, "Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm." I immediately thought about my big brother when I read those words. Despite all he has been through and the setbacks he has experienced somehow he continues forward willing to share the spirit of living. I don't think he realizes how successful he truly is - I don't think any of us genuinely comprehend the success each one of us has accomplished in our lives or can begin to imagine the extent of what we can achieve if we only believe and embrace the power within. On my left wrist I wear several bracelets that never come offmy arm. In addition to my "Team Jensen" ones I wear a bright red bracelet that reads, "Nothin' but a Victory." It was the motto our friend Shane had when he was diagnosed with cancer. Sadly Shane lost his battle but I continue to wear that bracelet because it reminds me I can make every day, each waking moment"Nothin' but a Victory." When I look at it I feel as if Shane is reminding me life is important and no matter what happens it is a victory and certainly worth the living. Sometimes along the way we are given the opportunity to look at things differently. We are awakened to the wisdom that we really can "create our universe as we go along," by turning every "failure" into a lesson, looking for breath-taking beauty amidst the fog, and challenging ourselves to find eternity in each present moment. It is a gift, this life we live, one we should embrace with gratitude and reverence - a sacred journey we were all born to receive. Lloyd Omdahl Continued From Page 2 including collecting pocket the food program of the change in church services, Great Plains Food Bank, a selling car wash tickets, subsidiary of Lutheran Social earning tips at pizza Services, with the largest restaurants, soliciting ongoing food program in businesses and civic North Dakota through 260 organizations, and selling feeding programs in 99 FMSC promo T-shirts. communities, and collecting The Greater Grand Forks around 11 million pounds of project also collects food for food annually.. area food pantries. While the efforts in Minot, Great Plains Food Bank, Fargo and Grand Forks are Fargo-Moorhead exemplary, they need not We would be remiss if be exclusive. They can be we did not acknowledge replicated by communities and churches all across North Dakota. (Hope Lutheran in Fargo will be doing its own FMSC project of 100,000 meals in December.) Recently, the Chronicle of Philanthropy ranked states according to their giving and North Dakota ranked near the bottom - the lowest of any state west of the Mississippi. The best way to repudiate this finding is to put feet to our compassion with more projects such as the ones in Minot, Fargo and Grand Forks. 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